You Are Enough – Even on Your Messiest Days

Okay, real talk. Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, ugh, I’m not doing enough, I’m not good enough, and honestly, I don’t even know if I’m functioning like a normal human today? Because SAME.

But what if I told you that even on your messiest, most chaotic days, you are still enough? Not because of what you do. Not because of what you have. But simply because you exist.

This belief didn’t come easy for me. It took years of unlearning, wrestling with self-doubt, and peeling back layers of external expectations to finally arrive at this truth: I have nothing to prove. I am already enough. And guess what? So are you.

Let’s talk about why we struggle to believe this—and more importantly, how we can shift our mindset. Because the world needs you, not some polished, "perfect" version of you, but the real, fully human, already enough you.

Where Did This “Not Enough” Lie Come From?

We don’t start out doubting ourselves. Babies don’t sit around thinking, Wow, I should really be walking by now. Other babies are walking. I’m so behind. No! Babies just vibe. Somewhere along the way, we pick up the idea that we have to earn our worth.

For me, it started with school. I remember being in eighth grade, making all A’s for the first time, and feeling the absolute rush of praise from teachers, parents, and even other kids' parents. I felt seen. I felt valued. I felt enough. And my little overachieving brain took notes: “Okay, so to be worthy of love and respect, I have to be the best.”

Cue years of perfectionism, chasing achievement after achievement like my life depended on it. Sound familiar?

We internalize so many messages about what makes us worthy—whether it’s getting good grades, landing the perfect job, fitting into a certain body type, or being the "good Christian" who follows every rule. We learn that our worth is tied to our performance, and that’s where the trouble starts.

Because the truth is, your worth was never meant to be something you had to prove.

The Comparison Trap (A.K.A. Social Media is Lying to You)

Social media has made this even worse. We scroll through highlight reels of other people’s best moments and compare them to our behind-the-scenes bloopers. And then, just for fun, our brain crafts this Frankenstein monster of an ideal person—a little bit of her success, a little bit of his perfect relationship, and a sprinkle of their aesthetic morning routine.

And then we think, “Why am I not like that?”

The truth? No one is like that. Even the most accomplished, seemingly put-together people wrestle with self-doubt. I work in leadership at my company, and let me tell you—so many meetings are just people figuring things out as they go. No one has all the answers. No one has it all together. And yet, we convince ourselves that we’re the only ones feeling this way.

If you've ever thought, everyone else has life figured out but me, let me be the first to say: Nope. That’s a lie.

Signs That You’re Already Enough (Even If You Don’t Feel Like It)

Let’s get one thing straight: feeling like you’re enough is not a prerequisite for being enough. It’s a fact. Here’s the proof:

• You have survived 100% of your worst days.

• You are constantly growing and evolving—even when you don’t realize it.

• Your worth is not tied to your productivity, your job title, your weight, or what other people think of you.

• You do not have to be perfect to be worthy. You do not have to fix yourself to be lovable.

Reframing Growth: You’re Enough AND You Can Grow

I used to think self-improvement meant fixing all the things that were “wrong” with me. Now I realize: I don’t grow because I’m lacking. I grow because I deserve joy, learning, and new experiences.

I deserve to take an art class—not because I need to prove I’m creative, but because I want to create.
I deserve to join a kickball league—not because I need to be more athletic, but because it sounds fun.
I deserve to try new things, not to chase some impossible standard, but because life is meant to be lived.

This mindset shift has been huge for me—especially with things like fitness. For the longest time, I beat myself up over my body. I worked out from a place of self-punishment. Now? I move my body because I love it, not because I’m trying to earn my worth.

Whatever self-improvement means to you, let it come from a place of self-care, not self-criticism.

How to Reinforce Your Enough-ness

Want to start believing you’re enough? Here are some small but mighty ways to practice:

🔹 Set Boundaries – Walk away from people who make you feel less than. You don’t owe anyone access to you at the expense of your self-worth.

🔹 Practice Affirmations – I used to roll my eyes at affirmations, but let me tell you—they work. Try this one: I am enough, just as I am, in this very moment. Say it until you believe it.

🔹 Limit the Comparison Game – Remember that social media is a highlight reel. If someone else’s posts make you feel worse about yourself, it’s okay to mute, unfollow, or take a break.

🔹 Embrace Imperfection – Perfectionism is a trap that keeps us from taking risks. So what if your first attempt isn’t perfect? Good enough is enough.

Final Thoughts: You Are Enough. Period.

So let’s wrap this up with a little exercise. Say this out loud:

I am enough.
Say it again. I am enough.
One more time, because it just feels good: I am enough.

Now, I want you to think about something you’ve been avoiding because you felt like you weren’t good enough. What if you already are? What if you’ve been enough all along?

Whatever that thing is—whether it’s applying for the job, posting your art, starting the business, or just wearing the outfit that makes you feel good—go for it. You don’t need to earn your worth. You already have it.

And if you need a little extra encouragement, I’d love to hear from you! DM me or tag me on Instagram @TherapyThriftShop with something you’re doing just because you’re enough. Let’s celebrate each other.

Because today, tomorrow, and always—you are enough. 💛